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Such family do exists!!

img-20170221-58ac3c5ca2f47Princy, an elder teenager of her family has a cheerful character with a bubbly outlook. She is outspoken, slight notorious with a sluggish behavior sometimes. She was sent to Dehradun to accomplish her degree in Bachelors of Technology. Although, the life in a hostel was far distinct from home, but each and every trice of her life was a remarkable journey there.  She was a brainy girl with outstanding academic records.

Abruptly, one day her father announced news of her Marriage on phone and she was asked to come to her home within a week for engagement. She was dismayed on this sudden earnestness of her family, the word marriage was in the middle of nowhere in her mind. She was at the verge of completing her graduation. However, it is said- “who can avoid untoward”? This is exactly what happened with Princy.

At an early age of 22 (early indicates today’s generation), Princy got wed locked with Aman – a renowned Doctor in USA. Post marriage rituals which were solemnized in India, it was time for Princy and her in-laws to fly abroad. The first day at her new home she woke up at 10 AM in hustle bustle. Scolding herself on her stupidity she went silently to the kitchen and found it closed.  When she heard a voice from drawing room she swiftly went there and saw her husband, father-in- law and mother-in-law drinking tea and gossiping. She apologized for her behavior but was amazed to see their reaction. Her mother-in-law kissed on her forehead and handed her a cup of tea which was being prepared by her father-in-law. And she added- “Princy beta, first of all be calm and persistent here. This is your home now; keep it the way you want. Never afraid of asking or keeping your opinions. You are my daughter not daughter-in-law”.  Princy was on cloud nine after listening to this mind-boggling words from her mother-in-law.

Now she was out of the worriment, persecution and all other family dramas which are the hurdles for almost every new bride. There was no “in-law” factor in her life anymore. She also decided to continue her study which she left a month back and undoubtedly got an approval from family members. She, with her new parents resettled for six months in India to finish her studies. In between these months, whenever Princy planned to visit her own parent’s house, her mother-in-law used to be weepy and they both used to cry as if Princy will never return. Hardly have we got to see such bond between daughter-in-law and other in laws. Though, Aman was not with her but his profound love, understanding nature, his support through call and video chats were enough for her to crack the examination with first rank.

She also prepared for the competitive exams to get into some reputed companies in USA. Being an Engineer by profession, her father-in-law assisted her in further preparation for exam. Ultimately, she got selected in a multinational company in USA and is fetching attractive salary now. After a year of marriage, Princy got conceived and was undergoing the phases of hell and heaven at the same time. This was the time when her mother-in-law did everything that a girl can expect from her own mother. The result was the cute little prince in her home who was the apple of everyone’s eye.

There is nothing wrong if a girl dreams for such family and also there is nothing wrong if a boy’s family expand their mindset like Aman’s family.  There was no comparison, no expectation, and no discrimination and yes such family do exists.

Eventually, I would like to reveal the truth that Princy is none other than my school friend whom I met after a long gap of nine years. Opportunely, she got everything she never has dreamt for. Now I got to know the fact that – “Everything happens for a reason”. Here, I also request the readers to please like, comment and share your feedback, like you shared before. Thank you.

तू ऐसी क्यों है ??

img-20170119-58808fc45870bसबसे पहले मेरा उन सभी लोगो को बहुत धन्यवाद जिन्होंने मेरा पहला लेखन पढ़ा और मुझे खूब सराहा I आज, मेरी ये कविता एक ऐसे शक्स पर आधारित है जिसका ना तो हम इस दुनिया में किसी से तुलना कर सकते है और न ही उसका एहसान चूका सकते हैं I उसके प्यार को सिर्फ ज़िन्दगी भर महसूस कर सकते है I

तू ऐसी क्यों है?

नौ महीने गर्भ में रख लेती है , इतना दर्द तू कैसे सह लेती है ,

मेरे छोटे से गम को अपना बना लेती है, हमेशा तू कैसे मुस्कुरा लेती है ,

‘माँ’ तू ऐसी क्यों है?

तू ऐसी क्यों है?

हर रिश्ता हँस के निभा लेती है, हर इन्सान को अपना बना लेती है,

तेरे प्यार की ना कोई गहराई है , और ना ही कोई ऊँचाई है,

‘माँ’ तू ऐसी क्यों है?

तू ऐसी क्यों है?

सारा दिन मेहनत करती है, बदले में कभी कुछ नही मांगती है ,

तू इतनी सौम्य, इतनी प्यारी क्यों है ,

‘माँ’ तू ऐसी क्यों है?

तू ऐसी क्यों है?

जब दुनिया की तपीश में हम झुंझला जाते हैं, तेरे आँचल की छांव जैसी ठंडक खोजते हैं,

तू ही हर मर्ज़ की दावा है, मेरे हर ख़ुशी की पहचान है,

‘माँ’ तू ऐसी क्यों है?

तू ऐसी क्यों है?

अपने दुखों को हमेशा छुपाती है, बेटी की विदाई में सब से ज्यादा तू रोती है,

कलेजे के टुकड़ो को दूर होता नहीं देख सकती है, फिर भी तू मजबूर हो जाती है,

‘माँ’ तू ऐसी क्यों है?

तू ऐसी क्यों है?

खुश रहें सभी बस ये प्रार्थना करती है, बेटे को तू जान से ज्यादा चाहती है,

तरक्की करता है बेटा और तू खुद को सबसे खुशनसीब समझती है,

‘माँ’ तू ऐसी क्यों है?

तू ऐसी क्यों है?

तू जन्नत है, तू मन्नत है, तू ही मेरा संसार है,

तू है तभी तो ये ज़िन्दगी इतनी हसीन और खुशहाल है,

‘माँ’ तू ऐसी क्यों है?

 तू ऐसी क्यों है?

तुझ जैसा ना कोई है और ना ही कभी हुआ है , तेरी तुलना किसी से करना अनूचित है,

तेरे जैसा बनना मुश्किल ही नही नामुमकिन है, माँ तू ही तो भगवान का असल अवतार है,

‘माँ’ सिर्फ तू ही ऐसी क्यों है?

आशा करती हूँ ये कविता पढ़ के आपको अपनी माँ की याद जरूर आएगी और आँखे नम तो होना स्वभाविक है I अगर आपको ये कविता अच्छी लगी तो अपने सुझाव मुझे जरूर दें I शुक्रिया I

A thoughtful letter to my Brother’s future Wife !!

img-20170208-589aefafd7013Every day on social networking sites, and of course on whats app we are coming across the family stories, poetic dramas, which are sometimes sentimental, pathetic and emotional as well. For the new bride entering into the new family, the most importunate relationship is the relation with her sister-in-law (elder or younger). If this closeness is healthy, she can tackle all other new relations coolly and gleefully. Revitalized by my pal’s experience and by my personal observation I thought of   inscribing this letter to the new member of my house.

My dearest Trisha (name hypothetical),

First of all, I whole-kindheartedly welcome you to my loving family. You must be enthusiastic and nervous too to begin this fresh journey of your life among the people who are wholly strange to you. Your parents must have given you many instructions and have taught you chapters on how to behave at new home after marriage. Just forget those lessons and only remember your rites (Sanskar) that had been given by them since childhood. Let me make you aware that, we never want you to change, be the way you use to be. If you find it difficult to make my parents as your own, leave it. I am sure, one day, their love and affection will compel you to do so.

We never have asked you what you have learnt (cooking, household chores etc) and will never ask. My mother is always there to teach and guide you. She or any another member will not question on your upbringing. We are always there for you whenever you need us. Coming across weird incidents where mother-in-law or husband or wife herself is unable to maintain the relationships among each other, I would like to tell you that, like other mother-son relationship, utmost affection are there between my mother and brother and now the same will be proudly shared with you. You are unquestionably allowed to expect the same behavior, same help which you will be sharing in your new family from my brother for your family. And also, you don’t need to take permission from anyone to visit your own home.

Not by any means, I want you to get indulge or to be wounded with any circumstances. I saw scenarios, where mother-in-laws, sister-in-laws expect a call from their Bahu every day or alternately and will never notice their own fault, when they call only their son or brother on daily basis to talk.  These things don’t matter to us, we are there to call you, assist you whenever required. All my happiness and sadness will not only be shared with my brother but with you too. Frankly,I don’t know about your perception, how you will treat me but you will always be my younger sister. Every time you are welcome to share your worriment with me, no matter what. Only we need from you is a friendly behavior, rest decisions will always be yours.

Certainly, I want to be a loyal, faithful; and of course, friendly sister-in-law, that every girl wants or want to be one. Ever more, I just want to divide my adoration towards you as well. Hope you enjoy this whole voyage of love, affection and respect. God bless you forever.

All my love,

Your’s Anchal