Keep your worries away!!

This is the story of identical twin’s brothers- Alex and John who were about to complete their schooling in a month. Although they had the same physical appearance, they were wholly opposite in nature and behaviour. One day they decided to plant a mango tree in their garden, individually. Alex sowed the seeds at the right corner of the main gate and John at the left.

“Let’s see whose plant grows actively soon?”- Alex said

“Definitely mine” – John replied

“No… Mine. I can bet you”- Alex again responded over-confidently

Then, the two brothers promised to be superior to each other.

Both started searching on the internet for the methods of cultivation of mango tree. Alex used to water a plant daily. In fact, he had set an alarm in his mobile, so that he doesn’t skip watering. He watered more than the required capacity so that the tree grows speedily. He devoted his full time thinking about the good growth of the tree, leaving behind his studies. He was fully concentrated on tree and was also worried about the result (fruit). Whereas, John used to water twice and concentrated on his studies as well. He was working hard and was not at all worried about the result. He was just performing his duty with honesty without caring about the result.

The days passed by and the heavy storm entered the city. The wind unleashed in the environment. Other trees were bending and shaking due to strong blowing air. Many branches and plants were destroyed. The worst storm made the wind scream badly. Alex was peeping through the window, while John was busy completing his school assignment.  Alex was much worried than John. Alex prayed continuously for an hour until storm vanished. The moment they went to see their trees, they were stumped. Alex’s small plant was uprooted and was scattered in the garden whereas the wind failed to affect John’s plant. It was standing erect. Alex cried on top of his voice.

This explains, we should never run behind anything or anyone. The more you value anyone, the less you will get in return. Let me elaborate with an example- The parents keep running behind and keep worrying about their children. They try to fulfil all their demands instantly, making their children totally dependent on them. Too much fretting can become a burden sometimes. Like, if, deficiency of anything can harm the body, then, excessive can also destroy it. Excess worrying can harm the parents as well as their children. Like, it harmed Alex and his growing Mango tree.

A Blind Painter and his Dog

Based on real story.

Story-teller- Anshika Srivastava

It was a heartrending day, when a boy named Peter, 21 years of age lost his parents in a road accident. Worst among all was, he also lost his eyes. His dream of being awarded as the best painter remained a dream. Now there was no one to care for him. He was all alone in his home. A gentleman from his society admitted him to an NGO house (Non- Governmental Organization), which was a home for disabled people. Peter took all his essential painting items along with him. Many times, he tried making few sketches just from his imagination. He learned to distinguish between different colored paints through feeling their textures with his fingers. Sometimes, it would become a perfect sketch and sometimes it became something else.

One day when he was sitting silently on the lawn of the NGO, and few children were playing there, a dog came running from somewhere. He kept on disturbing them. They jerked him angrily. Then, the dog came near to Peter and started licking his feet. He felt relieved as if someone is there with him. He gradually caressed the dog with his hand. Even, the dog liked his company. Every day, that dog used to come there and sit next to Peter. They were good friends now. Seeing their utmost friendship, the head of the NGO decided to keep the dog there itself and Peter named the dog as Tommy.

Whenever Peter used to paint something, Tommy was always there sitting next to him. Peter taught himself how to ‘see’ objects through the sense of touch. He completed a big painting in a month. Tommy helped him in picking up the brushes and keeping them back to the position. He also helped him in finding a dirty cloth which was mandatory during painting. Everyone in the NGO house appreciated him for his beautiful creations. One of the staff members has sent his painting in the “Best Painters Award” and he was being nominated among twenty painters.

Peter attended the award ceremony with the workers of NGO house. He never forgets to take Tommy with him. Peter’s name was announced. He went to the stage with his best friend- Tommy, who had always shown him the right path to walk. His painting was on the stage, covered with a cloth. The moment he stepped up, the cloth was pulled up slowly. The audience was dazed to see Peter’s painting. It blew them away. He painted his friend Tommy’s photo on it. His sense of touch made him achieve his dream which he thought had lost.

He was awarded the ‘Best Painter Award’. His painting was praised by everyone there. A blind painter has proved that the people with great passion can make the impossible happen. His passion and purpose were greater than excuses and fears of being disabled. He tried, and tried and finally achieved.  His blindness never stopped him from being a renowned artist. He has carried on his life’s work as a talented painter. He has also proved that being a handicap is not the end of the dream.

Beauty Versus Brain- who rules the world?

Isn’t a lethal combination? The blending of beauty and brain are almost seldom today. The one who is blessed with both the jewels is the luckiest creature on the earth. A famous saying- ‘the first impression is the last impression’ itself is a proof of beauty without the brain. In fact, the brain without beauty finds it difficult to withstand the initial phase of interaction, sometimes. Beauty doesn’t mean only the external appearance of the person it also signifies the beauty of the soul. Beauty and brain must go simultaneously but definitely, a brain is the one who rules the world. A beautiful person with lack of intelligence might excel in today’s era but an ugly person with beautiful brain doubtlessly wins the world.

We can’t ignore the fact that, in today’s world front cover of the book matters more than the book itself. The casts of the movie matter more to the audience than the review itself. Let me narrate few examples of where Beauty dominates the Brain. Today, still the girls in many Indian families are being rejected for marriage just because they fail to meet the expectation of ‘fair and lovely’. Though, they are professionals, having an outstanding work record and earning a handsome amount. Then why? Why is the beauty ruling here? Are they not the part of the world? Does the dark skin, chubby body, small height or the spectacles on her face going to decide her future? Why don’t they understand that the beauty fades away with time but the brain gets polished more with increasing age? Rejection really drains the person emotionally. It’s so unfair that people judge us on something which we can’t change. We can put the makeup on and look beautiful hide our scars, color and highlighting our cheeks and lips. But, we can’t hide our intelligence. Right or wrong?

Another example from a film industry also proved that beauty is more important than the brain. Here, I am talking about Nawazuddin Siddiqui, who had umpteenth skills but just because of his appearance he was being rejected by the directors and producers of films and serials. He had experienced the longest and toughest struggle of his life. Eventually, he is now the successful actor of Bollywood.

Although, we are surrounded by so many great leaders, scientists, authors who have set an example where Brain really rules the world. Let’s talk about Rahul Gandhi who is smart but not brilliant than Modi. And ultimately, India is being ruled my Brain (Modi). Our former President, late Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam was not that handsome, but his achievements made the country proud. Even, the beauty contests like Miss World and Miss Universe require intellectual skills and not the beauty alone. Beautiful, brainless individual cannot even stand in the race for life.  Even, most of the handsome and gorgeous film stars are blessed with the genius mind. It’s very well written, that the “Beauty lies in the eyes of beholder”.

Yes, Beauty is important but only in the field of modelling, acting and in forms of entertainment but again, if the person is talented enough he will be able to succeed irrespective of the looks. Have we ever thought who made the technology for cosmetic products? Of course, the bunch of brainy people.

Be the reason, someone ‘Smiles’ today

It was a fine day in Mumbai. The leaves in the park were blooming and grasses were scattered like a green velvet. The sky held a soft blue ray. The beautiful petals of the flowers were welcoming the people in the park. Everyone had a jovial face there. Almost all the benches of a park were occupied by the couples. There was one bench where a boy was waiting for his girlfriend with a bunch of flowers. On the other hand, an old beggar sitting in the corner of the park was continuously watching that boy. A boy who never offered him the single penny.

All the passers-by gave money to the beggar. The boy waited for more than an hour but his girlfriend didn’t come. While returning from there, he untied the small tissue cloaked bunch of pink roses and few small white chrysanthemums. The flowers were tight budded and stems were wet. The wind was perfumed by the strong fragrance of the flowers. He took out his white handkerchief, opened it and arranged the flowers elegantly in front of the beggar. He picked the steel bowl that was filled with few coins and notes, from beggar’s hand and kept it near the flowers. He also added fifty rupees note to the bowl. The beggar was muddled. He urged-

“What are you doing boy?”

Boy replied politely- “From today, you will be selling flowers instead of begging”

The fanatical response from the boy made the beggar weepy.

“You opened my eyes today, boy. Thank you for providing me the way to fill my stomach. Thank you”- Beggar exclaimed

Every day, the boy uses to give him a bunch of variety of flowers. From then, beggar started selling flowers in the park. And was earning more than he used to earn while begging. Suddenly, from one day the boy stopped coming to the park. His absence keeps bothering the beggar. Somehow, he managed to earn well.

A Few years later-

The moment boy entered the florist shop, a man hugged him.

“Where were you since these years?”- asked a man

The boy said surprisingly- “Is this your shop? That’s astonishing”

“Yes boy. This is all because of you. Tell me, where were you?”

“I relocated to different city for higher studies”

“Where is your friend?”- man asked

“She is waiting outside. Come and meet her”

The boy’s behavior, his attitude changed a person from a beggar to an owner of a florist shop. His girlfriend was also very much impressed by his mentality, hence she returned to be with him forever. We know life is too short, then why can’t we bring the smile on other’s face? The best feeling of Happiness is when you are happy because you have made somebody else happy. There is a saying-

“The greatest happiness in the world is to make other happy”

Be Happy!! Keep Smiling!!

“Humanity” & “Moral values”- losing the Importance

Yet another RAPE happened in the Capital this month. But, this time, Humanity has thwarted the limits. A 22- year woman was assertedly gang-raped by three men, after throwing her nine-month-old daughter out off the autorickshaw. Unfortunately, this led to the death of the child on the spot. On average, fifty crimes against women are registered every day in Delhi, including around four cases of rape. This is not only the case in this city but in mostly all cities of our country. Are we woman safe in our own country?

– NO!

Murder, extermination, sexual slavery, female infanticide etc, etc has become a need for Indians today and still, we call our country a land of Unity in Diversity, land of cultures, traditions. I do agree with the fact that – Humanity has no nationality, it is universal, but the question lies here is- if for the good work we can appreciate our country then why can’t we blame it for the weird crimes? Undoubtedly, Humanity has reached its lowest point. Females are neither safe inside the womb nor outside.

I had discussed this with my husband as to what can be the main cause of this rapidly increasing trend? One reason he pointed out is PUNISHMENT. For most of the victims, the reactions begin days or weeks after the rape. The amount of time the victim gets justice is a way too long. 6 months to more than years. And justice delayed is justice denied. No terror of police and conviction. Though the law is said to grant justice to the innocent, sadly, it is untrue in the case of Rape victims. Rape laws in India are extremely antiquated.  Seems, our laws in India are still not sufficient to control this crime which is taking place at an alarming speed. As a result, the culprits get another chance for the shameful act.

The next thought we had in our mind was that, is this the case of only India or any other emerging or under developing country? I thought why not google it. To my surprise, that’s not the case in India only. I see US and Russia in the list above India. So, it means it has nothing to do with country’s GDP. While the punishment in some countries is instant death, in other countries, the punishment extends from few years in jail to life imprisonment depending on the extremity of the case. I also think the law in these countries is also strict, then what may be the reason behind this?

Although we are looking at the monetary growth, what about the moral growth? Are we growing in moral values? One day while returning from office, I saw two kids of around five-six years fighting in my society. One of the kid said- “I will bring a knife from my house and will cut you into pieces”. Though I was amazed to see his fluency in English, but the sentence he spoke was out of my believe. The children these days learns English and are smart in using technology but how about the moral values? Are we focusing on teaching this to our kids? Does our education system focus on teaching these moral values? What one learns in the childhood is what molds him as a better person. Therefore, family values, respect for women, should be taught from the early age to man.

Nevertheless, the reasons perhaps are the overall low status, backward mentality, and lack of respect for women in India. But what about other countries, why the females are still suffering from these crimes? What might me the reason there? All measures to prevent rapes would be useful only if men start thinking high of women and make efforts to protect a women’s self-esteem.

Don’t let your “limits” define you!!

Bandipur National Park- the perfect destination to rejoice the beauty of nature. A place is five hours drive from Bangalore, has a variety of biomes including dry deciduous forest and shrublands. The diversity of mammals, birds, reptiles is the source of tourist attractions there. Around 3.00 pm, I along with my three friends started for Jungle safari (an activity by four-wheeler which takes us closer to the flora and fauna). Our guide- James, exhibited us with numerous wildlife including- tiger, leopards, elephant, lion etc. We were amazed to see his awareness on each creature present there. As the hours passed, we were given an hour break for the refreshment at one of the small restaurants inside the park.

This was the time when I noticed that the young fellow guide with utmost knowledge on wildlife had no legs. Hence, an inquisitiveness in me aroused and unhesitatingly I asked him the reason behind his being lame. He replied smiling-

“It has been more than ten years when I lost my both the legs in an accident.”

We were stunned and a friend of mine questioned- “But, why are you still smiling?”

Again, a calm reply from him- “Sister, I have only lost my legs, not my life.”

Though his sentence had a deep meaning, we were excited to know more about him. We kept heaps of questions and his response was inspiring and pathetic as well. He interpreted calmly- “I applied for many jobs but was being rejected everywhere. One day, I got an opportunity to apply for government job. I qualified every written round but in my final round of interview, I have rejected again because of my disability. Still, I did not give up and requested the interviewers to check my practical skills. I took them for jungle safari and explained them everything that they were expecting from me for this specific role. Therefore, they selected me for the position I am holding today.”

“Thank you for showing us another aspect of life”- I said

He added- “Come here, I will show you an appropriate example.

“We clenched this elephant here with this tree, when he was a baby so that he doesn’t run away. He tried ample of times but failed. As he started growing up, he assumed that his limit is only to this. Hence, he stopped trying further. And, look at the bumblebee, due to their heavy weight, aerodynamically, these shouldn’t be able to fly but the bumblebee doesn’t know that, so it goes on flying anyway. I hope you girls are going to follow the bumblebee rather than an elephant.”

“Life is limitless. Work beyond limits”

Here, Jame’s life is great motivation which encourages us to expand our mindset and work hard to achieve anything irrespective of our limits. We need to be fearless to maximize our opportunities and possibilities.

ससुराल क्या है ?

jiri-wagner-227868जब कोई स्त्री व पुरुष शादी के बंधन में बंध जाता है तो उसके बाद दोनों को एक नया परिवार मिलता है जिसे हम सब ससुराल कहते हैं l एक लड़की अपने ससुराल की बहु कहलाती है तो लड़का दामाद l खैर, ये तो मैंने आपको ससुराल की परिभाषा बताई l आइए जानते है ससुराल का असल मायने एक लड़की  की कलम से जो बेटी, बहु, पत्नी , बहन, भाभी, हर रिश्तो से पुकारी जाती है-

दुनिया बदल रही है, लोग यहाँ तक की चाँद पर घर बनाने पहुँच गए है लेकिन जब बात विवाह की आती है तो हम लोगों के सारे सिद्धांत, संस्कार सब खोखले से नजर आते हैंl आज लड़कियां हर छेत्र में अपना पर्चम लहरा रही है फिर भी पराए घर से अनजान परिवेश में कदम रख रही लड़की के लिए आत्मनिर्भर और विकसित मानसिकता के बावजूद ऐसी कई बेडिय़ां हैं, जो मन से उसे नए रिश्तों को अपनाने नहीं देतीं। जो मन में ज़िन्दगी भर के लिए गाँठ बन के रह जाता हैl एक बेटी के माँ-बाप उसे पढ़ा-लिखाकर, उसे काबिल बना के दुसरे घर भेजते है, लेकिन क्या वही प्यार, वही दुलार की इच्छा उनकी बेटी अपने नए घर में रख सकती है? बिल्कुल नहीं l ये वही घर है जिसे हम सब ससुराल कहतें हैंl चाहे बहु अपना सारा व्यवसाय छोड़ कर या घर से काम करने के बावजूद ससुराल वालो की सेवा ही क्यों न करे फिर भी उसे वो महत्व कभी नहीं मिल सकता जो एक लड़की को मिलना चाहिए l चलिए मै आपको पढ़ाती हूँ बदलते ज़माने के बदलते ससुराल की  परिभाषा-

  • ससुराल वो जगह हैं जहाँ लड़की ने एक बार कदम रख दिया फिर तो अगर वो अपने मायके जाने का सोच भी ले तो घर में मन-मुटाव पैदा होने लगता है l भले ही वो अपने मायके साल में सिर्फ पाँच दिनों के लिए ही जाती हो l
  • वो ससुराल ही है जहाँ लोग हमेशा बहु की तुलना बेटी से करते हैं l जहाँ लोग बेटी से बहु की बुराई और बहु से बेटी की तारीफों की पूल बांधते हैं l भले ही खुद की बेटी में हज़ारों अवगुण हों l
  • अक्सर बहु से पूछा जाता है- “तुम्हारी माँ ने तुम्हे कुछ नहीं सिखाया ?” मै पूछती हूँ  इन ससुराल वालो को किसने अनुमति दी है किसी के माँ-बाप पर आवाज़ उठाने को? क्या बेटे को कभी किसी ने सीखाया है- “अपने ससुराल वालो का भी ध्यान रखा करो, घर के कामो में मदद किया करो …” नहीं सीखाया किसी ने l फिर बहु से भी ढ़ेरों उम्मीद नहीं रखना चाहिए l
  • ससुराल ही है जहाँ बहु अगर बीमार भी हो, हर हफ्ते रिश्तोदारों का स्वागत भी करे इसके बावजूद दस बातें सुनने को ही मिलती हैl
  • दिन भर अपनी बुराई सुनने के बाद अगर बहु चुप रहे तो, बोला जाता है बात ही नहीं करती अगर वही जबाब दे, तो सुनने को मिलता है – आजकल की बहुए की जवान बहुत चलती है l ये सब सिर्फ ससुराल में ही होता हैl
  • जहाँ अच्छे काम करने में प्रशंशा तो नहीं मिलती बल्कि थोड़ा सा कुछ गलत होने पर बात आग की तरह रिश्तेदारों तक फैलती हैl

हमारे पाठको को जान के हैरानी होगी की ससुराल ऐसा भी होता है जहाँ-एक माँ, बहु से अपनी बेटी के ससुराल की बुराई करती है l बस यही है आजकल का ससुरालl l अफ़सोस की बात तो ये है की घर में होते अनबन की वजह कोई और नहीं बल्कि बेटे की खुद की माँ होती है जिसे लगता है की शादी के बाद उनका लाड़ला हाथ से निकल गया l मै तो कहती हूँ ऐसी माओं को अपने बेटे की शादी हीं नहीं करनी चाहिए, अपने पल्लू से बाँध कर ही रखना चाहिए l

मैं उन सभी ससुराल वालो का शुक्रगुजार करती हूँ जिन्होंने एक लड़की को बेटी जैसा रखा हैl जिन्होंने कभी भी ससुराल और मायका में कोई अंतर नहीं किया l आज हम बहुए भी किसी की नन्द हैं, कल किसी की सास बनेंगी लेकिन ये जो आज हो रहा उसे दोहराया कभी नहीं जायेगा l हर इंसान को अपने तरह से जिन्दगी जीने का पूरा अधिकार हैl

A girl with roses!!

“Sister, please buy this flower”- a perky little girl of around five years requested.

Every day I used to meet this cutest creature of God on my way to home from school. A young fair complexioned chick with a ray of sadness on her face used to sell roses at the traffic signals each day. That was none other than the sign of poverty and the struggling phase of her life. Many of times, her simplicity, innocent face, delightfulness was something I used to recall in class. Often, I thought of talking to her but could not gain the courage to proceed. Sometimes, I used to ignore her when I was busy in my studies, extra classes, sports.

One day, I noticed that she was not at the signal, hence, I waited for another ten minutes. But, could not found her presence anywhere. The whole day I was distracted, thinking about her. Even I could not sleep the same night. I thought of bunking class the next day and going to the police station to file a report. Mercifully, I saw her the other day with roses in her hand near my house. With utmost curiosity, I went near her and questioned about her absence on the past days. She replied prettily-

“I was at my home to take care of my younger sister”.

The way she responded, touched my heart and soul deep inside. I felt an angel standing in front of me with blood red roses and a milky face. I wanted to talk more with her.

“Tell me about yourself dear”- I said serenely

She was just blooming with her innocence and replied-

“Sister, my name is Rosa. I live a kilometer far from here and usually come here to sell these flowers”.

I added- “and who lives with you, Rosa?”

An instant reply from her- “My mother and two younger sisters”.

And our conversation continued for more than an hour where I came to know about her family and the cause of the poverty they were suffering from. Rosa and her mother- who was a maid, were the source of income. She didn’t tell me anything about her father. I was still excited to find an unanswered question. We became good friends and I asked her to take me to her home.

Against the dark evening sky, I went to a place which was an unsafe habitat. The crumbling walls were the indication of a scarcity of food and water there. It was none other than Rosa’s house. I saw her twin sisters lying on a bed who were not more than a year. She introduced me to her mother who was a thin, laborious lady struggling to provide with all the need to her children. I came to know that her husband died due to excessive alcohol consumption a year ago. I was stunned to know that her twin daughters were just seven months older in her womb at the time of their father’s death. With the heavy heart, I left her home and promised her mother that I will meet her soon.

I discussed the whole incidence with my brother and we decided to give our every month’s pocket money to Rosa’s mother. Rosa started studying in a school and left her job of selling roses. Somehow, her mother managed to provide education to all her daughters.

“The beauty of life does not depend on how happy you are, but how happy others can be because of you”

 Twenty years down the line today-

A tall and gorgeous lady came running and touched my feet when I was at the bank to deposit money. I was stumped and could hardly recognize her. The crowd of the surrounding kept staring at us. She said with a pretty smile- “Sister, rose?”

I was astounded and hugged her tightly. We were flooded with the happily rolling tears.

I reacted- “Oh my God! Rosa, is this you? You look like a model”.

She smiles and said- “I saw you from my cabin’s glass window. Where were you since so many years?”

She took me to her cabin which had a name plate with “Rosa- Assistant Manager” inscribed on it. She made me familiar with the incidents she faced in the past years when I lost contact with her due to pursuing my further studies in the different city. Being studious in studies, she was sent to the renowned college to complete her graduation. And was luckily placed in a reputed bank. Her sisters are pursuing graduation and her mother is leading women welfare organization. She thanked me infinite times for everything. I just hugged her again.

This is something called “Life” which comes with many ups and downs. Our genuineness and hard work matters always. We are only responsible for our own success and failure. We are blessed with every perk in life, still, we could not utilize it correctly. Thought of quoting here-

“Every story has an end but in life, every ending is just a new beginning”