Every day on social networking sites, and of course on whats app we are coming across the family stories, poetic dramas, which are sometimes sentimental, pathetic and emotional as well. For the new bride entering into the new family, the most importunate relationship is the relation with her sister-in-law (elder or younger). If this closeness is healthy, she can tackle all other new relations coolly and gleefully. Revitalized by my pal’s experience and by my personal observation I thought of inscribing this letter to the new member of my house.
My dearest Trisha (name hypothetical),
First of all, I whole-kindheartedly welcome you to my loving family. You must be enthusiastic and nervous too to begin this fresh journey of your life among the people who are wholly strange to you. Your parents must have given you many instructions and have taught you chapters on how to behave at new home after marriage. Just forget those lessons and only remember your rites (Sanskar) that had been given by them since childhood. Let me make you aware that, we never want you to change, be the way you use to be. If you find it difficult to make my parents as your own, leave it. I am sure, one day, their love and affection will compel you to do so.
We never have asked you what you have learnt (cooking, household chores etc) and will never ask. My mother is always there to teach and guide you. She or any another member will not question on your upbringing. We are always there for you whenever you need us. Coming across weird incidents where mother-in-law or husband or wife herself is unable to maintain the relationships among each other, I would like to tell you that, like other mother-son relationship, utmost affection are there between my mother and brother and now the same will be proudly shared with you. You are unquestionably allowed to expect the same behavior, same help which you will be sharing in your new family from my brother for your family. And also, you don’t need to take permission from anyone to visit your own home.
Not by any means, I want you to get indulge or to be wounded with any circumstances. I saw scenarios, where mother-in-laws, sister-in-laws expect a call from their Bahu every day or alternately and will never notice their own fault, when they call only their son or brother on daily basis to talk. These things don’t matter to us, we are there to call you, assist you whenever required. All my happiness and sadness will not only be shared with my brother but with you too. Frankly,I don’t know about your perception, how you will treat me but you will always be my younger sister. Every time you are welcome to share your worriment with me, no matter what. Only we need from you is a friendly behavior, rest decisions will always be yours.
Certainly, I want to be a loyal, faithful; and of course, friendly sister-in-law, that every girl wants or want to be one. Ever more, I just want to divide my adoration towards you as well. Hope you enjoy this whole voyage of love, affection and respect. God bless you forever.
All my love,